House on Fire.
A few days ago my neighbours house was on fire, you couldn’t see the flames but smoke was pouring out of the house. I was sitting in my lounge checking emails, when I smelt fire. We occasionally have people burning off around us, so I didn’t check straight away. However after a few minutes I could smell plastic in the fire smell and I could see smoke outside my balcony door. So I went to investigate.
When I stepped out side I could see the roof covered with smoke and knew what was happening.
I grabbed my phone straight away and call OOO (Emergency in Australia). I quickly got through to the fire department and explain what was happening and gave my best attempt at directions for the house, as it was over my back fence I had no idea what the house number was.
I was the first one that had called.
I was really surprised by this. The house is on a main street, with lots of traffic going past, and easy for people to see. By the time I had seen it, the house had been on fire for a while.
So this got me thinking, how many times do we drive by, walk by, or just sit by and don’t connect with out surroundings, really look at what is happening, and take action about it. Is your house on fire? I don’t mean literally, but figuratively. Are there fires in your life that you ignore, because your too tired, caught up in other things, have too many balls up in the air?
There are many areas of our live’s that need attention, our health, our marriage, our children, our home, our work. In today’s fast paced life we are often running from one thing to the next and don’t have time to breath. So our house can be on fire and we don’t even know it. We don’t have time to look and make sure everyone is getting out.
Do you have your smoked detectors going off?
What are the warning signs in your household that things aren’t going right?
I encourage you to take some time and do a safety check on your life every now and again. Set aside some time to think about what you want for yourself and your family. There will be different goals for different seasons, your goals for when the children are little are different to when they are teens.
Do you have time to talk with your children, really talk not just give instructions, and are you mentally clear enough to listen?
I know at times this is one that I struggle with, I have so many things to think about in one day, that often I don’t really really listen to what the children are saying all the time. But I need to focus and pay attention. When we spend time listening to the little things our children want to share with us, they will come to us with the big things as well, because they know we are trust worthy with there feelings. After all it’s always been big things for them.
Are you putting off doing the things that you know you should or you really do want for your family because it’s hard?
I have at times put off getting serious about my health and the health of my family several times because it requires a lot of work from me. Over the years we have slowly be chipping away at it and making progress, but now I don’t want a slow progression anymore, and the interruptions are now out of the way, well mostly. I want health for my self and my family, and I’m going to get it.
I’ve started training to run 5 k.
Now I’m not in a phsyical state that I could just jump up and do it, I need to train. I need to spend time developing my phsyical fitness so that I have the conditioning, and stamina to be able to do it. For me that means taking action with food and exercise. Both can be challenging to do, and you need the motivation to keep going. The wins are seeing my fitness improve and being able to run for longer. But the challenge is making time to do it. It takes an hour out of my day, and it isn’t easy, but I use that time to listen to a talk I’ve wanted to hear, uninterrupted, or thinking and clearing my mind of my check lists for the day. This hour is an hour that I have given myself, to help me work of me. To become the me that I want to be.
Maybe training for a 5k run isn’t your thing, maybe your thing is spending time your garden, or baking, crocheting, getting your nails done, having a cup of tea with a friend to debrief about your lives. I encourage you what ever it is, get a friend and be accountable. I used to hate that work Accountable. I didn’t want to be accountable to anyone for anything really. If I was really that honest with someone, then they would soon know that I’m not what they think I am. That I don’t have it all together, and I have many failings. I now see that in a new light. I have many accountability partners, for different asspects of my life. They are my closest friends, and we are there to help each other, we know that we are just human, and we are working to simliar but different goals, and our goals are to help each other, motivate each other, and be each others smoke detectors. Helping to bring attention to smouldering fires that could be starting.
Change is hard to do.
So start by doing a safety check of your life. Are you spending time doing things that are going to help or hinder you in the goals that you would like for yourself, and family?
Take some time today to start thinking. Don’t wait until your house is on fire before you take action and make changes. Start working on them today.